How to Listen, Hear, and Validate: Break Through Invisible Barriers and Transform Your Relationships (How to be More Likable and Charismatic)
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Cultivate deep connections wherever you go. Prevent 100% of conflict, misunderstanding, and loneliness.Healthy relationships involve our feelings being heard, understood, and validated. Unfortunately, this is the exception rather than the rule. Are you doing it wrong, and alienating people versus comforting them? Find out how to walk this fine line.Uncover the biggest obstacle to the intimate, healthy relationships that we desire and deserve.How to Listen, Hear, and Validate is all about our top communication struggle – our tendency to react instead of respond, and forget that our goal is to build bridges rather than walls. You’ll learn what you’ve been doing wrong, and why your efforts at getting closer to people – in deep or light manners – have failed. You’ll learn actionable techniques and frameworks to have the most productive conversations of your life – ones that will walk away with people praising how empathetic you are. Most importantly, you will gain profound insights on how to reprogram yourself into a natural communicator.No more unresolved issues, struggles to get close, or failures from ineffective communication.Patrick King is an internationally bestselling author and social skills coach. His writing draws of a variety of sources, from scientific research, academic experience, coaching, and real life experience. His struggles in his early relationships has inspired him to unravel practical ways to cultivate meaningful, reciprocative interactions. Establish vulnerable, fulfilling and satisfying relationships.•The big mistakes when we ‘listen’ to others•How to structure a style for effective validation and empathy•Scripts to validate others, to know exactly what to say•Simple tactics to make others feel loved and seen•How to use empathetic communication and active listening techniquesDid you know? Most communication problems come from a lack of validation. Are we truly paying attention to the messages others are conveying, or are we just waiting for our turn to speak? Are we listening to reply, or listening to hear? After applying the proven techniques from this book, you’ll be able to increase love, respect and satisfaction to your relationship. You’ll become the person everyone wants in their life.Connect deeper and better. Raise the standard for your relationships.
From the Publisher



Understand human behavior and social psychology – and then you can understand yourself and the people around you.
Let’s face it – most of the problems that we encounter in our lives aren’t about the situation, it’s about the person in front of you. Whether it’s a parent, sibling, co-worker, or even significant other, there might be a gap in understanding. That’s reasonable and normal.
But what if you could learn to understand people, their motivations, what makes them tick, and ultimately how to connect with them better? This is renowned author Patrick King’s specialty: distilled emotional intelligence that helps you decipher why people do the things that they do.
He combines his natural instinct for human analysis with a plethora of the latest scientific research in the field to bring you the end result you want: better relationships, high self-esteem and confidence, self-understanding, and overall fulfillment and happiness.




GQ Magazine, TedX, Forbes, NBC News, Huffington Post, Business Insider, Men’s Fitness, Inc., ATTN, Real Simple Magazine, and Creative Live.
Patrick King is a Social Interaction Specialist and Conversation Coach based in San Francisco, California.
He has sold over 1 million books, and he is one of the world’s foremost authorities when it comes to social skills, social psychology, and human behavior.
When he’s not helping clients conquer the world, he’s either fronting an 80′s cover band or training for his next 10k.
ASIN : B08WK8L2FD
Publisher : Independently published
Publication date : February 15, 2021
Language : English
Print length : 184 pages
ISBN-13 : 979-8709512016
Item Weight : 7.4 ounces
Dimensions : 5 x 0.42 x 8 inches
Book 6 of 39 : How to be More Likable and Charismatic
Best Sellers Rank: #10,555 in Books (See Top 100 in Books) #30 in Emotional Mental Health #45 in Emotional Self Help #55 in Communication & Social Skills (Books)
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Kristina C –
Great for couples and parents
Both my husband and I read this book and found it valuable. Some of the points are a little redundant but overall I found it easy to read, understand and implement. Especially helpful when dealing with my kids because what I feel is a pointless waste of their energy, validating their feelings has certainly helped with some conversations what would have previously ended with me saying some mom cliche like- it’s fine you’ll get over it. And then huffing and not talking to me for an hour.
Matthew T. –
A lot of key information about validation
Great book I would read it again. A lot of powerful insight into validating and understanding how to communicate much better.
Robert Evans –
Easy to Read
Many insights on being a good listener . Written in a easy to read and understand style
Lucky –
Easy to follow
This is broken down in a way that is easy to understand. I really wish I could get some other people to read this and learn from it. I’m excited to implement these methods in my own life and look forward to forming stronger connections with people using the skills I have learned here.
osmundo bernabe –
Extraordinary Book
great material. extremely helpful
Nickendy –
Amazing read
For years Ive struggled with understanding what it means to valid people’s emotions and experiences. reading this book have help me learn how to do.
Da Vinci Man –
This book WILL improve your relationships if you follow its guidance.
This book has taught me things about communicating with others that I never learned before. Patrick puts things in a way that is understandable, which other similar books do not, at least not for me. I wore out a highlighter on this small book, highlighting gems like this: “We can offer understanding, respect and consideration all without ever changing our opinion or theirs”. All too often we tend to make sure the other person knows our opinion without acknowledging their right to their own. I’ve only had the book less than a week, and it has already had a profound effect on my most intimate relationship. I think that it all comes down to being a kinder, more loving human being. The world needs that now, more than ever.I have both the printed book and the audible, and I prefer the printed book. The narrator has a wonderful speaking voice, but the way he speaks sometimes seems rushed, plus, there is a Summary Guide at the end of the printed book that is omitted from the audible version. It would have been nice to have that included.Buy the book, read it, highlight the heck out of it, practice becoming a better person. Your relationships will improve. It is worth the effort.
adam –
Damaged
Haven’t had a chance to read yet. Book came damaged, appears it happened prior to shipping as the fold was a complete fold inwards and put back to flush inside the package
Kindle Customer –
Great read, finally understand the concept of validation and how to do it right, but is not easy but is great to learn
CathD –
Very short book but very clear and direct with the message. Highly recommend for supporting social skill development.
SK –
Great insight – has helped me a lot and made me change my approach in my relationships.All in all, a good read.
Amazon Customer –
Patrick never disappoint me. I love his books! Keep doing them!Patrick nunca me decepciona, me encantan sus libros! Sigue haciéndolos!
Angel evil eyes –
If you have a open mind this book will show you very healthy way to approach active listening and validation of people and how THEY see things and how to make someone feeling like how they see or feel is important even if we don’t see it or feel the same.