Forgiving What You Can’t Forget: Discover How to Move On, Make Peace with Painful Memories, and Create a Life That’s Beautiful Again
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Take back your life from pain and resentment as you move into the freedom of forgiveness.
Have you ever felt stuck in a cycle of unresolved pain, playing offenses over and over in your mind? You know you can’t go on like this, but you don’t know what to do next. Lysa TerKeurst has wrestled through this journey. But in surprising ways, she’s discovered how to let go of bound-up resentment and overcome the resistance to forgiving people who aren’t willing to make things right.
With deep empathy, therapeutic insight, and rich Bible teaching coming out of more than 1,000 hours of theological study, Lysa will help you:
Learn how to move on when the other person refuses to change and never says they’re sorry.Walk through a step-by-step process to free yourself from the hurt of your past and feel less offended today.Discover what the Bible really says about forgiveness and the peace that comes from living it out right now.Identify what’s stealing trust and vulnerability from your relationships so you can believe there is still good ahead.Disempower the triggers hijacking your emotions by embracing the two necessary parts of forgiveness.
If you are ready to begin the process of healing and moving forward, Lysa has some words of comfort and encouragement for you as you begin the journey:
“Dear friend, I understand, deeply and personally, how hard it is when someone does something unchangeable that also feels unforgivable. I’ve cried countless tears and wrestled through so many questions.
If you can relate, you’re in the right place. Within these pages, your heart will be tenderly held. Your thoughts don’t need to be edited. Your resistance is understood. But there are some biblical perspectives to consider that have finally brought peace into my life. And I want the same for you.
And if no one else has ever said they’re sorry for your deep pain, I will. My heart breaks for what breaks so many of us. So, let me take your hand and lead you through how forgiveness is not only possible but is one of the most healing decisions to embrace.”
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Lysa deeply understands the heartache that comes with life-shattering circumstances. But she’s also discovered that our hardships can be the divine appointments our souls need to radically encounter God.
Filled with Biblical truth, gut-honest vulnerability, and refreshing wit, Lysa’s words will help you find redemption in every part of your story.
Publisher : Thomas Nelson
Publication date : November 17, 2020
Language : English
Print length : 288 pages
ISBN-10 : 0718039874
ISBN-13 : 978-0718039875
Item Weight : 1 pounds
Dimensions : 5.8 x 0.92 x 8.64 inches
Best Sellers Rank: #845 in Books (See Top 100 in Books) #5 in Christian Women’s Issues #12 in Christian Self Help #18 in Christian Personal Growth
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Loren –
Thorough & insightful necessity for life!
Love her books!
Charlene Tate –
Connect the dots – finally
This was a great book, I truly enjoyed the topic. It helped to put things into perspective, reach back into my own experiences and understand more of the “why” things unfolded the way they did.It does explore how we face challenges, and how to get over a negative event and reframe it into forgiveness.
Michelle Youngs –
Excellent book, 100% worth the $
Life-changing book. Highly recommend if you are working through a tough time❤️
Portia –
In perfect alignment with my healing journey
I just finished reading the book, “Forgiving what you can’t forget” by Lysa Terkeurst. This book was meant for me at the perfect time. I cannot express how valuable and aligned this book is with my intent to heal. What I’ve learned I’ll take with me for the rest of my days here.Here are some key takeaways if you’re interested in reading this book.1. Forgiveness is not reconciliationLysa emphasizes that forgiving someone doesn’t mean you have to restore a relationship with them. Forgiveness is something you do for your own healing and freedom; not necessarily to fix or forget what happened.2. Processing pain with GodThe book encourages bringing your hurt and anger to God honestly, rather than suppressing it. Lysa shares her personal journey of betrayal and deep emotional pain, showing how she leaned into her faith to work through it.3. Choosing forgiveness dailyForgiveness is described as a process, not a one-time event. Some wounds require you to choose forgiveness over and over again while God works on your heart.4. The cost of unforgivenessHolding onto resentment and anger can keep you stuck in cycles of pain. The book explains how unforgiveness keeps us chained to our hurt, while forgiveness is a path to freedom, peace, and emotional clarity.5. Forgiveness doesn’t excuse the offenseLysa makes it clear that forgiveness does not make wrong things right, nor does it mean you’re minimizing the damage done. It’s a choice to release the hold the pain has over you.If you’re struggling with releasing pain in order to heal or experiencing loss you can’t seem to forget, I highly recommend this book.
Amanda –
Get this and The Forgiveness Journal!!
I just finished yesterday…and wow. This book is a must read!! Forgiveness is something I’ve always struggled with, and I’ve been in a really bad place lately after being hurt. I knew as a Christian I had to forgive, but I didn’t know where to start. I read the “Forgiving What You Can’t Forget” 5 day devotion on The Bible App and each day I was moved to tears. After finishing that I immediately bought the book (so read the free devotion first if you’re unsure if you should buy it or not)! Lysa was so open and honest about her struggles in her personal life. She never tried to seem perfect, she was real and relatable. I believe she covered all aspects of forgiveness and how we as humans can feel about it/those who hurt us. Everything she said were thoughts I was having. I’ve been so angry, bitter, and hurt, but she gave me such a different perspective about my hurt and the ones who have hurt me. It’s tough to get through because it’s heavy, but everyone needs to push through. Even if you don’t believe what she’s saying at that time, it will resonate with your heart, and the more you read, the more your perspective will change. Get this book and have an open mind, trust me.However, if you’re going to get this book, you seriously need to invest in “The Forgiveness Journal” as well. I’m not much of a writer/journaler, but it helped me beyond measures in this scenario. I believe reading this book is not going to be anywhere near as effective unless you’re willing to take a step back and write out what you’ve learned to process everything. Lysa provides Bible verses and guided questions to help you sort out your thoughts after each chapter. The beauty of this journal is that you get to write what you want, unfiltered, and it will only be yours to see.If you’ve suffered any type of heartbreak, past or present, please get these two books. It’s worth it, I promise. It’s not going to change you overnight, but it will change your perspective and help you begin the process of forgiving, which is Lysa’s goal. Get it, please, trust me.
Latoya Reisner –
This book is brilliant. Lysa writes almost from such a direct and personal point of view and beautifully brings in faith and religion in such a gentle way and as a reminder to teach you how to forgive. She teaches that forgiveness is very much a process AND an action and something we have to practice. She very much validate the pain you’ve been through. I’ve never connected to a book so much like this, and I’m now gonna be buying all her books. HIGHLY RECOMMEND. Even if you’re not a religious person – please trust this book. You’ll be in with it straight away
Emma Phillips –
Love it! Definitely worth the read.
Jean Elliott –
Excellent book. I love the author. Will look to buy more of her books in the future
Matteo Oligarchi –
I concetti nel libro sono sicuramente validi ma sono troppo spesso supportati da riferimenti religiosi. La scrittrice utilizza esperienze personali per affrontare gli argomenti trattati. Mentre capisco che la religione si una elemento importante per la scrittrice non vedo la necessità di validare tutti gli argomenti attraverso riferimenti a Gesu e alla Bibbia. I concetti possono essere validi anche senza di essi.
NinaPoe –
I am halfway through but already on the first pages and throughout the book I found so many inspiring statement and sections.Just going through an unexpected break up moving towards co-parenting I find it crucial to not fill myself up with anger, frustration and all those negative feelings. What Lysa is writing is so relatable and really helps me through, accepting and acknowledging the situation, the grief but not to add more pain.